20 yrs old, yellow teeth, stutter, shy, how do i make friends?

I want to know how to make friends. I am 20 yrs old, there is nothing mentally wrong with me, i have yellow teeth, so i do not smile wide and i do not have the money to bleach my teeth, i have a thick african accent, i have a stutter problem and i am shy. I am not good at sports because my father never let me play. I have a good looking face, i have noticed lots guys and girls staring at me, i have been told i am good looking by both sexes. I have a goofy personality, which only shows when i get to know someone. In highschool, lots of girls liked me but i was too shy and was too afraid to talk to them. I was a loner in highschool because of my problems. People seem to naturaly like me, and want to be friends with me.





My biggest problem now is i do not know how to act in social conditions. How do i make friends. I dont want to be somebodies boring friend who they dont want around. How do i make a conversation that lasts long? All i can do is question and answer type talks

20 yrs old, yellow teeth, stutter, shy, how do i make friends?
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Reading the newspaper will give you things to talk about. You can read several online. Even Yahoo has interesting articles to read that you can then say, %26quot;Did you see where they are having a contest to see who can build a car that gets 100 mpg?%26quot; for example.
Reply:im sry but good luck
Reply:i did not read the details cus its long.......


but go to myspace. lots of people there
Reply:Just don%26#039;t think to hard when you go over to talk to someone. Just let it flow.
Reply:MSN !





if your afraid of your personal appearance then best stick to MSN but i wouldnt bother because there loads of people out there with far bigger problems than having yellow teeth!!!!
Reply:Be yourself (:


The best advice you will ever get.


The friends you want to have will like you for who you are.
Reply:Sounds like you need confidence. Someone will appreciate you for who you are.
Reply:crest white strips, stuttering doesnt matter people should like you for who you are, and talk about interesting things with them that they want to talk about , go out somewhere where they love to hang out
Reply:Help for the yellow teeth: Brush with toothpaste and either salt of baking soda :)
Reply:go out to a club or bar or somewhere where there are a lot of people that you don%26#039;t know and won%26#039;t have to see ever again...just start talking and act out going....if know one knows you then their first impression will be a handsome outoing guy...this will make it easier to strike up conversations...go and get a job somewhere where you need to talk to people...good luck..
Reply:[[ evil scientist accient]].......u must stab ur fears eyes and destory ur fears......


no. just go up to people and get to know them....or live the rest of ur life all alone
Reply:the best advice i can give you is... stop caring what everyone else thinks!! you just do you! do what makes you happy and dont be shy.. your an adult now and you dont have anyone to impress. everyone you are hanging around now should be mature enough to be able to see past the physical things and see you for you. you just need to have better self esteem and everyone else will notice that.
Reply:I feel you man. You are insecure even tho you really shouldn%26#039;t be because you know it yourself...there isn%26#039;t anything wrong with you.





My advice can sound strange but it will actually work. When you go to social places have a few drinks of alcohol and that will relax your nerves and you will feel free to say anything and therefore for others be a more interesting person. Of course I don%26#039;t mean completely wasted lol.





good luck
Reply:Get involved in social activities where you can get a chance to meet people. When talking to people, take an interest in them genuinely. Asking them questions about themselves opens them up to a conversation.
Reply:The only way to do it is to be confident. Forget about your teeth. I%26#039;m not going to lie and say people don%26#039;t notice those things, but there are people who don%26#039;t, but as long as you are hung up on such things, everyone you meet will notice how self conscious you are. Everyone has things about them they are not satisfied with. Some people think they are fat, others have acne, and I%26#039;m really short. Just get over it and be confident about your good qualities. When you can afford it, get some teeth whitening strips or something.





But just forget about your faults and make sure everyone you meet has a chance to see your good qualities and chances are they won%26#039;t even think about things like your teeth. If they do, they are too shallow to deserve your friendship anyway.
Reply:Be yourself and to act like someone else is to be someone else... Just talk to people at random... Talk about things that interest you... that way you can elaborate and the converstion won%26#039;t be short...





I don%26#039;t judge people by looks because that is how I am but I struggled with shyness so you can be my friend!!!!


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Reply:Dont be shy! If you are naturally likeable then you should not have a problem- people like confidence and if you just act confident, comfortable, and like yourself you should be fine. Be outgoing! And when you find yourself in a situation where you are in a conversation, listen to what people are saying. If you can think of a really funny or interesting story that relates to the topic tell it! Make people laugh and show them that they can relate to you! Best of Luck!!!
Reply:Well I make friends by being myself.. If your goofy like me just say stuff u usually say.. I moved to michigan by my self to go to school and i knew no one but i made friends easy by talking.. All you really have to do is talk.. What I did was just say stuff i was thinkin.. if my professor said sumthing stupid i would blurt out thats stupid and that would usually start a converation.. or i would just talk.. People dont really care about ur appearance ,its very easy to make friends.. just dont be so shy and open up.. thats what i did..
Reply:brush your teeth with baking soda and a few drops of peroxide each day. eat raw carrots and raw apples. Ok ,you must practice walking with confidence. Look in the mirror and practice smiling. Just makeup stuff to talk about. Read the newspaper and cnn to find out the current news. READ BOOKS. You must improvr yourself. You WILL be SUCCESSFUL!!!!!!!!
Reply:It sounds like the real problem isn%26#039;t your teeth, stutter, or accent, but your self esteem. If people naturally like you, then what is there to be ashamed of? You are who you are if people don%26#039;t like it, tough!! You should just learn to relax and expand your comfort zone. See if you can find something online about a guy named Lou Dobbs. He teaches people how their minds work and this can help you learn to expand your comfort zone so that you feel more comfortable in situations that would normally make you nervous. Just be yourself!! =)


Oh, and about making conversation. You said you have an african accent. Were you raised in Africa? If so, try telling stories about your life there. That seems like a pretty interesting conversation.
Reply:you dont need to bleech your teeth just use colgate white strips or trays to whiten your teeth. Change your style and go to a club or social place. DO NOT be shy. Socialize, if you see someone you like, come up and dont hesitate. Stand in front of a mirror and pretend your talking to someone like a girl or a new person you met and talk. If you stutter start your sentence again. Ask for more advice on help lines that you can find on cereal boxes.
Reply:Brush your teeth with toothpaste and baking soda. It really helps make your teeth whiter and it%26#039;s cheap.





Get into something, have a hobby. If you find someone who likes that thing too, then talking will be easier. Don%26#039;t be too nervous. The other person is responsible for the conversation too.
Reply:Brush your teeth stand tall have confidence in yourself and your words. Think who what when where when you have a conversation to keep it going. Stay goofy if that is your personality it lets people know who you are. Be assertive smile
Reply:You aren%26#039;t alone dude, a lot of people are shy for numerous reasons. I%26#039;m a fairly shy guy by nature and it took some time and effort to overcome it (mostly anyway!).





Forget about your teeth, stuttering, etc. Instead just enjoy the moment to moment experience of socializing and hanging out with friends or other people. If it helps remind yourself about your good qualities. People seem to like you the way you are so roll with that. If you%26#039;re having difficulty engaging conversations talk about things you%26#039;re really into or banter about common subject manner for more casual conversations (movies, sports, the typical stuff...).
Reply:Ok, so I know this sounds cliché and all, but just show people who YOU are! Just remember, if they don’t like it, then they can F off! Those kinda people never make good friends, and about the conversation thing, don’t think about it that much. Well, good luck! Im sure it will all work out! ^_^
Reply:To help with your stuttering.start by learning to sing just practice a lot till you can learn one song.then write the words on paper and say them keep slow.Soon you will find that it gets easier.
Reply:A bag over your head with some prerecorded messages to play on a recorder of some movie star%26#039;s voice would be an EXCELLENT start.
Reply:smoke pot with people, but if you can%26#039;t afford to bleach your teeth. Try brushing your teeth twice a day and using teeth whitening mouth wash and chew orbit teeth whitening as much as you can. If you don%26#039;t want to be a boring sap. You have to lie and make yourself look cool. Seriously, do this and it%26#039;ll be fun. Its like living in a magical fairy world you create. You are in control! now go out there champ and make some friends and fix your dirty ******* mouth.



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